Policy on Bullying - Supporting Information

It is important to distinguish between normal growing up and finding your place in class or in the playground and real, systematic bullying. I am sure you can all recall instances where your child has been distraught after falling out with a friend and then the next day all is well.

The key characteristics of bullying behaviour are:-

•    that it is persistent and goes on over time;
•    that it is deliberate and not accidental;
•    that it involves the person doing the bullying in having some power over the other child.

Bullying is sustained, unkind behaviour (which can include physical hurting, stealing, damaging things, making fun of people or saying untrue things about them).  Not all unkind behaviour is bullying.

How can parents help their children? 
Younger children in Foundation Stage and Key Stage 1 take time to settle into lasting friendships and may change friends day by day; this is a normal part of growing up. As hormones kick in, children in upper Key Stage 2 can become moody and friendships can be strained. This is all normal, as we all know!

Our clear, straightforward school rules mean that all children know and understand what they should do and the consequences that will follow.

At Neston we aim to tackle bullying by trying to prevent it from happening in the first place and by tackling it consistently and fairly when it does.

Children both use and experience bullying behaviour from time to time and children can and do change their behaviour.  The following guidelines may be useful for parents to deal with issues as they arise.

All our children know that they should tell an adult if they are worried or concerned about anything.

My child is unhappy and has fallen out with his or her friends
•    ACTION: talk to your child. Talk about feelings and how to play together. Ask your child if s/he can play with another friend. Teach your child how to share and get on with others. 

My child is still unhappy and does not seem to have friends
•    ACTION: talk to your child’s teacher. Often a quick word can help resolve small problems. We can help your child choose a friend for playtimes. Our lunchtime supervisors will look out for children who may be experiencing friendship difficulties.

My child is really unhappy and there seems to be a persistent, underlying problem
•    ACTION: make an appointment with your child’s teacher to discuss the problem in depth. Make a further appointment in a couple of weeks’ time to see how things are going.

My child is still unhappy and the issues have not been resolved
•    ACTION: make an appointment to see Ms Patrick or Ms Fallon.
•    ACTION: make an appointment to see Mrs Evans

These websites may be useful: www.childline.org.uk ; www.kidscape.org.uk  and www.parentline.org.uk